I like to be a bit of a contrarian, and challenge conventional wisdom.

And one of the ideas that annoys me the most is the notion that you shouldn’t care what others think.

If you’ve spent any time of the internet, perusing self-development or personal growth websites, you’ve probably come across this idea multiple times.

I personally see it over and over and over again.

And I see lots of people readily agreeing with the idea.

A quick Google search turns up articles with titles such as the following:

  • 10 Clear Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Care What Others Think
  • Why You Need to Stop Caring What Others Think
  • How Not to Care What Other People Think: 5 Steps

I think it’s well past time to fight back against this awful notion.

So today I lay down the gauntlet!

And give you…

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5 Reasons Why You SHOULD Care What Others Think

1. People who don’t care what others think are generally awful human beings

There’s a type of person who NEVER cares what others think.


  • They don’t care what others think.
  • They don’t care about other people’s feelings.
  • They don’t care how they treat other people.
  • Etc., etc., etc.

Do you know what we call those types of people?


Is that what you aspire to be?

A sociopath.

I certainly hope not.

And yet that’s all these websites urging you not to care what others think want you to become.

2. Caring what others think can make you a better person

Guess what? I care what my wife thinks of me. I care what my parents think of me. I care what my sisters think of me. I care what my friends think of me. And most importantly, I care what my nieces and nephews think of me. I love my nieces and nephews dearly and I want these precious little children to think well of me. And it would tear me apart inside if I did anything that made them think less of me. Their opinion of me matters a lot to me. And that makes me a strive to be a better person.

3. You’re not the center of the universe (and neither am I!)

The idea that you shouldn’t care what others think is rooted in the dangerous notion that your wants and needs are more important than those of other people. And I’m here to tell you that they’re not! Yes, you matter! You matter a lot! But so do I. And so do all the other people in the world. Would you really want to live in a world in which no one cared what others thought? I know I wouldn’t. I want to live in a world where we DO care what others think because we recognize that others matter just as much as us.

4. You miss the chance for valuable feedback

As Lori Deschene from Tiny Buddha says in this excellent article:
If we decide to stop caring in all instances that might push and challenge us, we risk closing ourselves off to insights, relationships, and ideas that could change our lives for the better—and potentially do the same for others.

5. We should treat others how we want to be treated

Think about this.

Imagine that you express your opinion to someone.

And they respond by telling you “I don’t care what you think”.

How would you feel?


Cared for?



Probably not.

In fact, you’d probably feel pretty lousy.

So if that’s how you’d feel, why would you want to do that to someone else?

If we’re going to be honest here, the whole “you shouldn’t care what others think” idea is an excuse.

An excuse to treat others poorly and not take responsibility for your words or actions.

You Don’t Need to Care What Others Think All The Time

Caring what others think doesn’t mean that you need to care what every person thinks of you in every single situation.

You need to pick and choose.

For example, I do my best to dress nicely but honestly I don’t care that much.

It’s just not that important to me.

I learned long ago that I have limited fashion sense and that’s unlikely to change.

So I really don’t care what others think of how I dress myself.

I do my best and let it go.

On the other hand, I do care how my words affect other people and I try my best not to say things that might hurt someone else’s feelings.

And when I do, I have no problem saying I’m sorry.


You also need to decide how much weight you give to what others think.

Caring what others think doesn’t mean that they have the final say in your life.

It simply means that we take what others think into account as we navigate through life.

But the final decisions for how to live our lives still rest with us.

What you DON’T want to do is let what others think of you fundamentally change who you are or severely limit your life in any way.

In the end, it’s not about whether you do or do not care what others think.

It’s about whose opinion matters to you and in what situations.

And how much weight you give to what other people think.

So there you have it…

5 reasons why you should care what others think.

Please comment below and let me know what YOU think.

Agree or disagree?



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