A few weeks ago, I posted the following quote on my Facebook timeline:
A friend of mine responded by writing:
“Google Marcus Royal and Ann Marie Mull >>> NOPE”
Of course, I didn’t need to google it.
I already knew what she was talking about: a few years ago, my friend’s mom was murdered.
See, it’s easy to put a quote on Facebook.
It’s a thousand times harder to actually put the wisdom of the quote into practice.
I’m not in my friends shoes and hopefully never will be.
My mom is alive and well.
Even though I live far away from her, I skyped with my mom (and my dad) last week.
My friend can’t do that.
She’ll never be able to talk to her mom again.
So if my friend doesn’t want to or isn’t ready to forgive the man who murdered her mom, who am I to say that she’s wrong?
I don’t know the pain, the hurt, the anger that she has to bear on a daily basis
So keeping all that in mind, here’s the question that I want you to reflect on this week:
What are the limits to my forgiveness?
In other words, what are the things that you find hard or impossible to forgive?
These could be things from your past.
Or they could be things that, if they actually happened, you think would be difficult to forgive.
Or maybe it’s a type of person that you find difficult to forgive – for example, a child abuser or an animal abuser.
Whatever it is, take a deep look inside yourself and identify what your limits of forgiveness are.
Forgiveness is difficult, there’s no doubt about it.
But it also leads to peace, to compassion, and to a more loving heart.
And if those things matter to you, then you need to learn to forgive.
One way to start is by reflecting on the question above.
For those who want to go deeper, check out the short video below which includes a few additional questions to help you open your heart and move forwards forgiveness.